Strengthen Your Marriage With These 5 Tips
1. Keep your cord braided
A cord of three strands is not easily broken, Ecclesiastes 4:12. If you haven’t heard of this analogy before, God, you, and your husband represent the strands. Keeping God at the center of your marriage seems obvious but if I were to ask you how you currently do that in your marriage, what would be your answer? This bleeds out into how you serve your spouse, how you talk to your spouse during disagreements, praying together before making big decisions, etc. If I reflect on my marriage and how my husband and I keep our cord braided, we pray together, we sit in church together, we chat about our spiritual walk or what God is teaching us, biblical foundations infiltrates our every day conversations big and small and always leads our conversations, my husband serves me so well in his actions, and I like to think I show respect to him which are both also Biblical foundations.
How do you keep your cord braided?
2. Date night
Someone once said to me, you can’t have quality time without quantity time and it has stuck with me over the years. Growing up my parents always had date night every Wednesday and I saw first hand the impact it made that when my husband and I implemented it when we first got married. It’s a boundary we set that no matter how “busy” we get, we are basically saying to eachother, “You are important to me and I am making time for us.” There were times when our budget was small so it looked like a movie night at home with snacks, after our girls were born we went through another season of movie night with pizza until they were out of the newborn stage and it got easier to go somewhere. It doesn’t have to be extravagant but it does have to happen!
Set a night right now and write it on the calendar!
Ps.. check out this blog post I wrote on 20 intentional things to do with your man on date night that doesn’t include TV!
3. Serve your husband
I get it.. you want him to serve you not the other way around haha! Ask the Lord for a heart to serve him, to show him love in a way that it is well received by him. Ask the Lord to show you what his needs and wants are so you can serve him well. We don’t do this so that we get anything in return but I guarantee you that if you focus on serving your husband well, he will begin to serve you back. Again, not why we do it but it is contagious! Can be little ways to let him know you’re thinking of him. He likes a special coke that comes in a glass bottle from Mexico and only one store in town has them so sometimes I’ll go fetch some for him or i’ll randomly say, “Go relax and i’ll but the girls to bed on my own tonight.” Or simply ask, “Hey, how can I serve you today?”
Write down a few ways you can serve your husband!
4. Prayer
This is another one that seems a bit obvious but lets take an honest look at your prayer life (NOT from a works mentality) but lets get real about our prayers. You have an enemy in the unseen seeking to destroy your marriage.. seriously. Marriage is from the Lord so satan hates marriage especially Godly marriages. Get strategic about praying for your marriage as well as your husband. What are his strength, weaknesses, outward circumstances. Where do you need to be on guard in your marriage? Don’t let the enemy convince you prayer is ineffective, It’s POWERFUL!
I’ve created this FREE guide for you to get a strategic plan for prayer: 5 Easy Steps to Know Which Scripture to Pray Over Your Husband
5. Finally, CHOOSE to love him
God gave us the power of choice. We get to choose what we say, think, or do. Are you going to choose to love him in the tough times? Are you going to choose kind words during a heated disagreement? Are you going to choose to be patient when he leaves his sock drawer open and messy time after time (Talking about you Ashton ;) ), are you going to choose love?
This is tough sometimes I know.. Spend some time looking through 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 and ask God to help you show that love toward your husband in all that you say, think, and do!
